Are You Engineering Your Life To Stay Small


July 18, 2016

“Are You Engineering Your Life to Stay Small?” 

Brené Brown, Research Professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work asks us the question in our subject line.  And it could be a good way to get us to John Burroughs’ famous quote – “Leap and the net will appear.”

Vulnerability and possibility often occupy the same space whenever we try something new, or step into the unknown. Having an idea and seeing the potential in that idea, we often get this sense of exhilaration, brain cells firing in all directions; “YES!” in every breath. That’s the Law of Expansion in the Universe spurring us to grow! Explore! Push limits! Evolve!

For some of us, that moment of exhilaration is quickly followed by our “yeah, but…” and “what if…” reptilian brain cells reminding us to take a close look the line separating expansion and self-preservation.  We must respect this line – and then move past it.  This crucial step gets easier if we remember that our evolution is always going forward…we just don’t know it, since we often slow ourselves down by devaluing the detours, pitfalls and what we think are “missed” steps.

That’s when we must remind ourselves there are no mistakes in the Universe – only learning points – turning points – as we engineer our lives.

Brown’s question comes from her book Daring Greatly:  How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead.  Pushing our creative limits opens us to our own strength, curiosity and self-reliance.  Our fear can keep us stuck or we can dare greatly and take the leap.  The choice is ours.


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