Avoidance (1)

September 22, 2014


Ever notice how all our problems stem from avoidance? Avoidance of unpleasant decisions, tasks or encounters? We can make excuses and rationalize the procrastination or denial, but until we let ourselves look inside at the wound we’re trying to protect, we’re missing an opportunity for inner healing.

When we’re squeamish about addressing a painful person or environment, that’s the time to remember that we keep getting our lessons until we learn them. Maybe the situation isn’t the problem; maybe it’s the solution.

Painful as it might be, staying with the pain is the beginning of healing. This is where we examine, understand and forgive. This is where we explore, learn and release. Distracting ourselves or pacifying our feelings denies us the opportunity to reconcile and grow. We transcend by addressing – not by avoiding.

Our inner healing will not necessarily bring about change in the outer situation that started it all, but it can change the way we deal with it. We feel a shift in power. We go from depletion and exhaustion to strength and energizing. Our resistance matures into resilience.

Our wounds heal when we let them. Painful situations are our teachers. We can run from them or learn from them. The choice is ours.

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“Forgiveness has deeper rewards than excusing someone for how they have hurt us. The deeper healing comes in the exchange of our resentments for inner freedom. At last, the wound, even if never acknowledged by the other person can heal, and our life can continue.” – Mark Nepo