May 2, 2016
Avoiding Pain Slows the Healing
Ever notice how all our problems stem from avoidance? Avoidance of unpleasant decisions, tasks or encounters? We can make excuses and rationalize the procrastination or denial, but until we let ourselves really look inside at the wound we’re trying to protect, we’re missing an opportunity for inner healing.
We keep getting our lessons until we learn them. When we’re squeamish about addressing a painful person or environment, it’s time to see that situation as the solution – not the problem.
Painful as it might be, staying with the pain is the beginning of healing. This is where we examine, understand and forgive. It’s where we explore, learn and release. Distracting ourselves, pacifying or minimizing our feelings denies us the opportunity to reconcile and grow. We overcome by addressing – not by avoiding.
Inner healing will not necessarily bring about change in the outer situation that started it all, but it can change the way we deal with it. We feel a shift in power as we go from depletion and exhaustion to strength and liberation. Resistance matures into resilience.
Our wounds heal when we let them. Painful situations are our teachers; we can run from them or learn from them. The choice is ours.