February 2, 2015
One of Merriam Webster’s definitions of “neutral” is “a position of power from the engine that does not move the wheels.”
In recovering from an unwelcome and wounding event, this “non-moving power” is an important position in itself. It’s a space, a place of rest, grounding and stabilizing where we can solidify our footing as we move forward. It’s that respite of in-between – where we redefine or clarify objectives, and allow ourselves to go with confidence from what was to what’s next. Viewed this way, Neutral can be precious and healing.
Neutral is where we call on our support system of trusted family, friends and professionals and let them create for us the sustaining environment we need so we can find our way. It is from this place of safety and trust that we navigate our uncertainty and hesitations in our next steps. It’s where we reach deep inside ourselves to reveal the seeds of resilience we didn’t know we had.
Breathing and resting in this safe place of “not moving” allows us to reflect on the event, find ways to keep the wisdom while we lose the wound, then, with confidence, we can shift into our first gear and move forward.
Sometimes, neutral is all the movement we need.