January 26, 2015
Psychologist and Author, Laurie Helgoe tells us “You’ve got to embrace rejection, or you’ll maintain a very limited life. It’ll be nice and neat – and very, very small.”
We’re not meant to be small. We’re meant to be limitless. We’re meant to grow, and reach, and learn and stretch, and then grow some more. If we base our self-esteem on the opinions of other people, we are guaranteed a life of smallness.
This doesn’t mean that the opinions and guidance from others shouldn’t be of value; it just means we should keep them Right-Sized. And keeping Helgoe’s “embrace” right-sized is important.
Right-sizing helps us hold our balance so someone else’s opinion of us isn’t more important than our own. It helps us keep our forward momentum as we embrace the rejection’s usefulness without being crushed by its overrated weight.
Then rejection becomes an exercise in structuring values, a pathway to safety and comfort and learning. Then rejection becomes a pathway to bigness.