September 28, 2015
As children, we probably all heard (at least once) “And what do you want to be when you grow up?” As adults, we’ve probably asked that question more than once to children we’ve met or known. The answers are as varied as the children who utter them: fireman, teacher, veterinarian, builder, athlete.
Maybe we need to look more closely at the question, and ask ourselves how the answers would change if we remember that “do” and “be” are not the same thing. We don’t need to choose between the two; we just need to be aware of the difference, and recognize that success is their careful blending.
If we allow paying the bills, competing in school or the workplace, and managing family dynamics to be guided by love, compassion, honor and truth, what we do becomes the vehicle for who we are. Then we can relax into relationships, work styles and family histories knowing we don’t need to choose between the scoreboard of doing, and the integrity of being.
That’s the moment our choices and our lives get easier. It’s also the moment when success becomes inevitable, because the definition becomes clearer.