February 8, 2016
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” This from Buddhist nun, Pema Chodrön’s When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times.
Sometimes things don’t even have to be falling apart – sometimes they’re falling together, but many of us are in the unattractive habit of ramping up artificial pressure on ourselves anyway, believing the “together” thing isn’t happening fast enough, soon enough, well enough or even just enough.
Setting goals and fulfilling desires are part of what we think of as life. In our culture and world, we often measure success against real or imagined benchmarks, each other, or some unattainable goal. There’s nothing wrong with quantifying success; it’s how we push ourselves to grow, share and expand. The key is using the right definition for success.
Success is unavoidable if we do our best, learn from our mistakes and work in earnest, because it is measured in the truth of who we are, the gifts we have to share and the intention behind it all. In this definition of success, we feel joy, self-celebration and fulfillment.
Anything less is just not who we are.