Often when we reflect on our lives and how we got to the places we now occupy, we can see detours, delays or missed opportunities. We find “but for that, I would be…” somewhere else. This thinking, these labels tend to keep us stuck in what could have been, if only…holding us to a sour taste of bitterness and loss.
The wounds that come from a broken home or marriage, a lost job or bad investment can be our teachers, helping us to see things in a different way; they can be a release from something that didn’t work as we find our way to what does.
That’s when we begin to learn that obstacles are not on our path…they are our path.
If we allow that realization to become the springboard to our next steps, a changed direction and a new view of what’s possible, we move out of the blame game, finger-pointing and criticism of others (or ourselves). It is then that we begin to see our obstacles as training, a pathway to our resourcefulness, resilience and imagination. All tools that serve us well as we take those next steps.
Barbara Bloom tells us “When the Japanese mend broken objects, they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold. They believe that when something’s suffered damage and has a history it becomes more beautiful.”