October 5, 2015


Frank Crane said “You will be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.” And can’t we all point to wounds on our hearts where we failed to recognize that dividing line?

Finding and holding the place where too much ends and not enough begins takes time, practice and a lot of self-reflection. In the healing process, we often hear ourselves saying “never again” or, worse, we make our new opportunities pay for the sins of prior offenders.

Learning to trust after a betrayal isn’t easy, but it begins with trusting ourselves. That learning includes clear-eyed self-examination of how we choose friends, mates, working relationships or business partnerships. If we trust someone with our heart, our confidence or their promise, and any of those gets broken, the fault isn’t with the other…it’s with ourselves: we trusted unwisely.

Once our wounds heal, we can reflect on their origin, our missed signals or ignored intuition: we can take ownership. It is this ownership that helps us keep the wound “right sized” allowing wisdom to replace punishment (for ourselves or anyone else). It is ownership of the wound that allows us to take our power back.

Einstein said “Experience is the best teacher because she gives the test first, and the lesson afterwards.”

Smart guy, Einstein.


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“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson