June 30, 2014
Merriam Webster defines “vulnerable” as “capable of being wounded…open to damage…” And in relationships, who among us hasn’t been there. Some of us more than once.
New relationships bring with them a degree of vulnerability. Finding out if we can trust this person to keep our heart in a safe place can be a scary process. We hesitate remembering past history and doubting our own ability to know if someone has our best interest at heart. Taking that first step into the unknown means getting comfortable with vulnerability – a contradiction in terms to be sure.
Embracing the uncertain in new relationships demands that we release the certain and make room for the possibilities. We might not like how our habits or past relationships or our work environments are holding us back, but at least we know what to expect. No surprises. Moving on from anything that confines us leaves us a little shaky and raw as we take those first timid steps; we’re tempted to go back to the old ways, the old partners, the old habits. But it doesn’t work; they don’t fit anymore. We know better. We’re bigger, smarter, healthier.
Getting comfortable with the vulnerability we feel when we step into the unknown is not easy but it can be the first step to trusting ourselves and others again. Surrounding ourselves with good friends and professionals as we reach outside that uncomfortable comfort zone is a good start.
Now’s a good time.